The following internet article caught my attention this week.
Go ahead and take a moment to read the article.
So let's break this down. Gay men don't get fat because of fear. Ok I'll go along with that. But then they go on to say that it's because of threesomes and only threesomes. Hold up. Am I missing something here? Because I'm sure that there couldn't possibly be something in working out to look good for your partner, or working out to stay healthy, right?
Let's go back a few years. Around 1999. I was a freshman in college and i weighed somewhere in the 120-130lbs range. And all the while I was 6'0". So you can pretty much imagine that I was skinny as all hell. I was a dance major and I was in theatre shows and it just kept my weight down. I hated it. I hated every second of being so skinny. I hated everyday hearing, "Are you anorexic? Don't you eat? Are you bulimic?" It dawned on me to go to the gym, so I did, but I worked out all wrong. I did circuit training which just kept me skinny. Basically I was a mess.
Fast forward two years. Summer of 2002. I had just finished my junior year of college. I went home for four months of summer break. After having watched a performance of myself earlier in the year, I was horrified by what I looked like. I"m sure many people feel this way at times in their lives. They think, "i'm too fat. I don't like this. I don't like that." and blah blah blah. I decided to start working out. I went nuts.
I started going to the gym for three hours a day. I added in some fake tanning to add to my new transformation. I was convinced that this was all going to make me happy.
And it did, for awhile.
But, after a few years in the city, I learned that there are more things to life than the gym. But that the gym is a healthy way to blow off steam. It's also a fun place to see your friends, or take classes and just be active.
Now, of everyone I know, I am the biggest fitness geek of all. You'll never catch me skipping the gym for pretty much anything. However, I have limits and I have reason. I know that it's good to take some time off. I also have watched the health of people much older than me fade and I know that I can do a lot to prevent that from ever happening to me. I see my parents and know all of their health problems and I know that I want to do everything I can now to make sure I don't have to deal with much as I get older.
So, in the 8 years of going to the gym (i only count from the time I gained weight) I have learned a lot. I went from being that stereotypical man at the gym who was only interested in being like the men I found myself attracted to, to being the man who works out to see the look I get from one person in my life. I love knowing that I make one person above all else excited to see me based on my appearance. I mean, I hope he's excited because of more than my appearance, but you know what I'm saying.
Basically, I say this. Doonan is full of shit. Yes, there are a portion of gay men who will only go after men who workout and it's all based on sex. But there are a lot more people in our community who don't go to the gym and have very important things to say. Funny things to say. Or just want to be themselves. They aren't nearly as pretentious as all of the muscle clad men who scoff at the tiny cute boy in the corner because he dared approach one of them to say hi. And in my opinion, all of those other people are far more interesting.
Of course, one could argue that it's because I'm in a relationship and that's why I feel this way. Well, I can assure you that I felt this way before I was in a relationship and thank God for that! So, I ask this Doonan guy, "why did you have to write about such a small portion of gay men? Why did you have to be closed minded to (most likely) your own people and just write some little fluffy thing? DOn't you think your time could have been more utilized had you written something groundbreaking? (i mean, like a blog?)"
The bottom line is, not everyone is the same. Not every muscle boy wants another muscle boy. Generally speaking, yes they do, but not all. And not everyone needs to go to the gym. But if they do, they should do it for health reasons, not for your penis.
And that's all I have to say about that. So Riggle me that, Fatso!